Today I would like to welcome you all on the first stop of the Blog Tour for Finding Blossoms In The Darkness By Simin Sarikhani and I would like to share an extract, with all of you. Thank you very much to Aimee from Bookollective for the invitation. Please do show some love to all the wonderful book bloggers on this blog tour by following and sharing their work. 🙂
Publisher: Cultureshock Media Ltd
Genre: Biographies & Memoirs
Release date: 10 09 2019
Price*: Kindle £N/A (GBP)/ Paperback £12.53 (GBP)
Kindle $N/A (USD)/ Paperback $17.16 (USD)
Pages: ~ 280
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Description of the book: A deeply moving memoir of a mother’s journey through deepest loss to hope. Beautifully designed and produced, featuring the gorgeous illustrations of Lesley Buckingham. Publication supported by imaginative marketing and publicity campaigns from Cultureshock and Bookseller Rising Stars Bookollective. A refugee from revolutionary Iran, Simin Sarikhani had fled her home, leaving all that she had to make a new life on the other side of the world. Although no stranger to life’s challenges, she would face none so great as the death of her only child, Zhubin, at the age of 21. This heartfelt account describes one mother’s journey through the unbearable pain of a child’s death to find what had seemed forever lost: hope, meaning, love and even joy.
Guided by the letters her son wrote to her to be read after his death, and his other insightful writings, Simin was able to find light in the darkness. In this book, she shares not only her own story but also Zhubin’s simple words, with the wish that they may also bring some comfort to other bereaved parents. Simin Sarikhani was born in Iran, and now divides her time between London and Montreal. Finding Blossoms in the Darkness is her first book.
Extract: Learning to Live Again
How often must grieving parents suffer the well-intentioned assurances that in time they’ll feel better? Although I soon sensed that the passage
of time alone could not cure my grief, I could apply it to a search for means of survival. There would be many lessons to absorb before I could
find a way to live again.
What turned out to be my key lesson was that suffering was but a teaching tool – to be taken advantage of in my pursuit of insight and
growth. Anguish taught me both how to endure and the importance of enduring.
“Sometimes it is hard to see the blessings in the difficult times.”
Accepting pain, living through it, and experiencing every bit of it has helped me to replace the dreadful emptiness of loss and guilt with a feel-
ing of being alive again. I came to understand that, to persevere through hardship and emotion, grieving parents have no choice but to find on
their own a means suited to them.
A curse whose spell shackled my feet – guilt – was the most difficult challenge I faced after losing Zhubin. I hadn’t been able to save my son. I was unchained only when it struck me that my journey was one through the heart and soul, and that as long as I clung to shame and guilt I would not be free to travel further. If I could not be truthful with myself, then I could not be truthful in a real way with others, unable to give what I did not have. I faced a long and difficult task: to learn to forgive myself, thereby ending my guilt. I learned that forgiveness is a fundamental law of the Universe. Bringing its own gift of liberty from shame and guilt, forgiveness proved to be a doorway to spirituality and a healing light. Most importantly, it taught me compassion and humility.
“Have the right knowledge to move forward and create.”
Longing to do and to give became a necessity that both sustained me and brought me satisfaction, nourishing both my heart and soul. In this way, the love I could no longer give to Zhubin, I now give to others.
The love I can no longer receive from Zhubin, others now give to me. It is through caring for others that I continue to feel him. Through their eyes I am able to see his love. The birth of this new feeling has brought me peace – a bridge that allowed me to cross over from despair to where
freedom awaited me. This healing force of helping is not momentary but tangible and permanent, never to be lost or disturbed.
I learned that there is no magic cure for grief and that I had to fight to live again. To know how to fight, I first had to know what I would be
to overcome the emptiness within;
to be humble;
to be eager and willing to start the work;
to accept my challenges;
to have the courage I would need;
to continue on my journey with dignity and hope:
and to have joy, no matter what.
At last I realized that I was capable of standing on my own two feet. I knew the path ahead would still be steep, but understood that I could not give up and had to do something with my life. I could learn from my mistakes and, like a child after falling, could pick myself up and teach myself to walk again.
“Not many people get second chances. You have a clean page to work with: write on it wisely.”
About the author: A refugee from revolutionary Iran, Simin had fled her home, leaving all she had to make a new life on the other side of the world. Although no stranger to life’s challenges, she would face none so great as the death of her only child, Zhubin, at age 21.
This heartfelt account describes one mother’s journey through the unbearable pain of a child’s death to find what had seemed forever lost: hope, meaning, love and even joy.
Guided by the letters her son wrote to her to be read after his death, and his other insightful writings, she was able to find light in the darkness. In this book she shares, not only her own story, but also Zhubin’s simple words, with the wish that they may also bring some comfort to other bereaved parents.
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